Feeling burnt-out from #MeToo? So many stories, so familiar to many of us. The good news is important work is being done in the Netherlands to promote discussion and change.<\/p>\n
This was clear at the recent event \u2018Sexual Violence And Masculinity: How Can Men Do Better?\u2019 hosted by\u00a0Atria, Institute on Gender Equality and Women\u2019s History<\/a>,\u00a0Emancipator<\/a>, and\u00a0The Feminist Club<\/a>.<\/p>\n The night kicked off with a screening of short-film \u201cEen Goeie Jongen\u201d (\u201cA Nice Guy,\u201d in Dutch, with English subtitles). The nice guy in question is Tom, a young, carefree student who parties with his friends and is in a steady relationship with Eloisa. One night, Tom crosses Eloisa\u2019s boundaries. On the surface, not much seems to change in Tom\u2019s life but on the inside an anxious struggle takes place. Will Tom be able to face his actions when confronted with Eloisa\u2019s suffering? Or is his \u201cgood guy\u201d image unshakeable?<\/p>\n The motivation for the film, according to co-director Jo\u00ebl van Dooren, is the disconnect between data on sexual violence and representations in the media. As much as 40% of Dutch women report sexual assault. In more than 80% of these cases, the perpetrator is someone known to the victim. Yet the media largely represents rapists as predatory monsters, far removed from our everyday lives.<\/p>\n The film forces us to consider the unthinkable \u2013 that \u2018good\u2019 people can do bad things.\u00a0The film holds up a mirror to the viewer. We are forced to consider, how do I communicate about consent? How do I contribute to a rape culture? For example, letting that sexist joke slide, holding on to the unshakable belief that none of my friends could every cross the line. They are, of course, such nice guys! How does my privilege \u2013 be that as a man, as someone white or heterosexual \u2013 blind me to everyday violence faced by those with less power?<\/p>\n A panel discussion followed, in which Jurhaily Sling from Emancipator spoke about his work as a peer educator. Emancipator is an inspiring organization that engages men and boys in gender justice, through capacity building, advocacy and dialogue. Jurhaily goes into schools and runs workshops with boys. He works hard to create a space where boys can open-up and discuss some of the pressures they face. This includes pressure to \u2018be a man\u2019 with status attached to \u2018getting\u2019 girls. It\u2019s clear that Emancipator is leading important conversations on harassment, consent and healthy relationships.<\/p>\n Discussion and debates inspired by Een Goeie Jongen and the work of Emancipator are important steps in the fight to end sexual violence.<\/p>\n At this moment in time, it\u2019s clear that men and women alike need to be looking at ourselves and asking some challenging questions. It\u2019s also clear that working with upcoming generations of men is a must.<\/p>\n What can you do to promote change?<\/p>\n Support the\u00a0White Ribbon Campaign<\/a>\u00a0and pledge\u00a0to never commit, condone or remain silent about violence against women and girls<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n